Beyond the Patterns: A Journey Back to You
- Feeling distant or stuck in a conflict
- Same argument, different day
- You talk, but don’t feel heard
- You’re not sure what’s wrong — just that something is
When you’re stuck in patterns that don’t feel like you, it’s not just about the relationship — it’s about everything that shapes who you are. We help you reconnect with yourself and each other — one step at a time.
Wherever you’re starting from, you’re not alone. Let’s meet you there.
Individual Worlds, Shared Orbit
Every relationship is a dynamic interaction between two evolving individuals. To truly understand the relationship, we must first understand each person — their inner world, their history, their values, and the external forces shaping their lives. Only then can we begin to navigate the space between them with clarity and compassion.
Working Together
Every relationship is different. So is every session.
I don’t offer rigid packages or one-size-fits-all solutions. Relationships are too complex for that — and real transformation requires space, depth, and flexibility.
Here’s how we work:
We start with each of you, individually.
Before we explore the relationship dynamic, we get to know you — how you think, what you believe, how you feel, and how you show up in the relationship.
Together, we examine who you believe you are… and how that actually plays out in the way you’re perceived and experienced by your partner. This is where most couples never go — and it’s where real clarity begins.
Once both partners have done this work individually, we bring it together.
You’ll start to see not only what’s happening between you, but why. With this shared insight, we can begin building a relationship that’s conscious, balanced, and grounded in wholeness — not co-dependence.
Why We Start Individually
In couples work, I meet with each partner individually first. Not to take sides — but to understand the full emotional landscape. Most couples haven’t had the space to slow down and really ask:
- What am I bringing into this relationship?
- What patterns am I stuck in?
- What truth am I avoiding?
When each person can answer these questions honestly, the work between them becomes deeper, clearer, and more human.
From Stuck to Connected — One Step at a Time
- Step 1 — Start where you are. We begin with what’s most important right now — whether it’s conflict, distance, or just feeling “off.”
- Step 2 — Understand what’s underneath. We explore the patterns shaping your dynamic — past experiences, personal beliefs, and external pressures.
- Step 3 — Shift together. You learn to reconnect with yourself and your partner, one step at a time.
Your Relationship Dynamic Isn’t Random — It’s Built
In our sessions, we look at the full picture — not just what’s happening between you, but the worlds each of you bring into the relationship. These elements shape your dynamic every day, often in ways you don’t notice…
Each person brings a whole world with them — personal beliefs, stress, family patterns, and more. These elements don’t just live inside you. They shape the dynamic between you.
This is the heart of our holistic approach.
You might find yourself always apologising, second-guessing, or holding back — not because of your partner, but because of what you’ve come to believe about yourself.
You react in a way that doesn’t quite make sense in the moment — but when you trace it back, it’s exactly how things were handled in your family growing up.
You talk — but still don’t feel heard. Or you shut down to keep the peace. What’s happening under the surface is shaping every word.
It’s not always about the relationship — sometimes it’s about how exhausted, overstimulated, or disconnected from yourself you’ve become.
When you don’t feel worthy or lovable, it’s hard to let love in. Even in a good relationship, that inner voice can make everything harder.
Old wounds can sneak into new connections. You might find yourself overreacting or withdrawing — not because of now, but because of before.
You’re not broken — you’re layered. That’s why my approach considers all the pieces, not just the symptoms.
Session Structure
- Sessions are usually 90–120 minutes, though longer sessions (up to 6+ hours) are available when needed — especially in moments of urgency or big decisions. Occasionally, we’ll stay with something important for longer — because when it’s unfolding, we don’t rush. This isn’t about efficiency. It’s about depth. And depth can’t always be scheduled into a neat container.
- I don’t follow a script. We begin with presence and build on truth. I meet each person as they are, not as who they think they should be. That means no pre-set formulas, no performance, and no pretending. We sit with what’s real — and from there, we move toward what’s possible.
- No pre-set packages — we work session by session, adapting as new layers emerge.
- Online only (via Zoom or similar). I work with clients across the world.
Session Fee: $120 USD/hour
(Session lengths vary depending on depth and flow.)
Some people are ready to begin right away. Others want to sit with a few questions first — about coaching, about relationships, or about the practical side of sessions. That’s why I’ve gathered the most common questions in the faq, so you can explore at your own pace.
What You Can Expect From Me
- Presence and objectivity. I put aside my preferences and stay with what’s true for you. I share insights as they arise — intuitive, felt, and grounded. What makes coaching powerful isn’t clever insight — it’s deep attention. I’m not here to advise you from a distance or guide you down a fixed path. I’m here to reflect what’s happening in the moment — what’s being said, felt, or avoided — so you can see yourself and your relationship more clearly.
- Truth without judgement. I’ll name what matters, even when it’s uncomfortable — always with care and respect.
- Safety through honesty. Psychological safety isn’t about avoiding hard truths; it’s about meeting them cleanly so you can move forward.
What I Ask Of You
- Self-responsibility. Be willing to look inward, not just point outward.
- Emotional honesty. If something hurts or doesn’t land, say it. We’ll work with it in real time.
- Willingness. Depth requires courage. If you bring that, I’ll meet you there fully.
The Why Behind The How
The way I work isn’t just about structure or session length — it’s grounded in a set of beliefs that guide everything I do. Over the years, I’ve seen that real change doesn’t come from techniques or quick fixes. It comes from understanding yourself clearly, meeting your partner with honesty, and building safety through truth, not performance.
These are the principles that shape every session I hold. They’re what I call my philosophy — the “why” behind the “how.” If you’d like to see the values that sit underneath this process, you can explore them there.
Choosing Your Path
Every couple — and every individual — comes with a different story. Some arrive ready to work together as partners, some feel the need to begin on their own, and others are managing the unique challenges of long distance. However you come to this work, there’s a path that meets you where you are:
- Couples Coaching – Working together as partners to face the truth directly and rebuild connection from clarity.
- Individual Coaching – Self-work, whether you’re single, in a couple, or navigating life after a breakup.
- Long-Distance Relationship Coaching – For couples balancing distance and closeness while staying honest and connected.
If you’d like the bigger picture before choosing, you can also start from the main coaching page, where all the options are laid out together.
Ready to begin?
I don’t offer free discovery calls — if you’re ready to invest in your relationship, we’ll get started.
Your first session is a real session — not a sales call. We get to work immediately.
No packages. No rigid time boxes. Just real work.
If you’re ready, we can begin.
If you’d prefer to reach out with a question before booking, you can send me a message directly through contact.