How to Improve a Long-Distance Relationship

How to Improve a Long-Distance Relationship

When you are away from your romantic partner, it is worth taking the time to improve your long-distance relationship, so you can make the most of it.

  1. Improve Your Communication in Your Long-Distance Relationship
  2. Agree on Your Means and Frequency of Your Communication
  3. Avoid Excessive Communication
  4. Share Your Feelings and Concerns with Your Partner
  5. Build Emotional Connection
  6. Keep Your Long-Distance Relationship Interesting and Exciting

Let’s explore each of these step in more detail.

1. Improve Your Communication in Your Long-Distance Relationship

Miscommunication is by far the biggest challenge in a long-distance relationship.
In a regular relationship, you see your partner every day. This gives you an opportunity to talk to each other face-to-face.

Talking to a person in front of you gives you a lot more information about their feelings and intentions than talking to them online.

In a long-distance relationship, your communication relies on text messaging, phone calls, and video calls.

The clarity of your communication depends on how well you can express yourself through texts and on the phone.

When you have your partner in front of you, you can kiss them, hug them, and feel them. None of these is possible during online communication.

Most people don’t take care when writing text messages. They use a lot of shortcuts and abbreviations. Many text messages do not have correct grammar, spelling, nor do they include the punctuation.

All of these things can make it very hard for the person receiving the message to fully understand what the person sending the message wants to say.

Poor communication leads to misunderstanding. Misunderstanding can result in confusion and unnecessary arguments, which are also hard to resolve when your partner isn’t in front of you.

To improve communication in a long-distance relationship, first, you need to know where the problem lies.
The main problems with communication in long-distance relationships are:

  • Excessive communication.
  • Lack of communication.
  • Unclear communication.
  • Boring conversations.

Effective communication is essential to maintain an emotional connection in a long-distance relationship. You can maintain good communication by agreeing on the means and frequency that work for both of you.

Improve your communication by expressing yourselves clearly, developing listening skills, and building an understanding. This step by step guide will help you with that. It is a practical workbook that will guide you through the necessary steps.

2. Agree on Your Means and Frequency of Your Communication

To have effective communication in a long-distance relationship, you should agree with your long-distance partner on how and how often is the best way for both of you to communicate.

Some people prefer texting, while others prefer phone calls or video calls. You and your long-distance partner may prefer a different means of communication.

Suppose you prefer texting, while your partner likes talking. In that case, you might avoid talking on the phone, and your partner may avoid texting you. 

A lack of communication can be due to different preferences for communicating rather than a willingness to talk. When you don’t talk enough with your partner, you risk growing apart.

When you don’t live together, you go through different life experiences. If the time you apart last too long, you may develop feelings for someone else. If this happens, your feelings for your long-distance partner can fade away, and your long-distance relationship could fall apart.

  • Decide when is the best time for you to talk.
  • Set some boundaries of how long you will talk every time.
  • Discuss meaningful things like your feelings, thoughts, and doubts.
  • If you identify any issues, talk about them as soon as they arise.
  • Make all your decisions together.

To learn more about communication in a long-distance relationship, take a look at this article.

3. Avoid Excessive Communication

When it comes to communication in a long-distance relationship, you should take the time to learn how to communicate effectively with your long-distance partner.

You need to make sure that they understand what you mean and vice versa. You must agree with your long-distance partner on how often you can talk to each other.

Excessive communication is one of the main challenges in a long-distance relationship. Couples spend a lot of time messaging or on the phone in an attempt to feel more connected. This only works for the first couple of weeks.

After that, excessive communication can result in boring conversations and a boring long-distance relationship. This will make your relationship a lot harder to manage.

The more you talk to your long-distance partner, the less time you have to do something fun with your life.

And if you don’t do anything interesting, you won’t have anything exciting to share. The moment you lose interest in talking with your long-distance partner, it can ruin the whole relationship.

To have a healthy communication, you should agree with your partner on how and how often you would like to communicate.

While good communication is essential to make your long-distance relationship work, it is only one part of it. If you are serious about your relationship and want to give it your best shot, check out this complete guide. It will take you through every aspect of a long-distance relationship and you can work on it together with your partner.

4. Share Your Feelings and Concerns with Your Partner

Regular conversations via the right means can help you maintain an emotional connection with your long-distance partner. When you can hear each other’s point of view, you can maintain an emotional connection, understanding, and work out any issues that may come up.

To keep emotional connection, you should take time to express your feelings, doubts, and concerns to your partner.

Your partner, in turn, should be able to express their feelings without you judging them. To share your feelings and desires, you need to trust each other.

If you have any trust issues, take some time to work them out, so they don’t get in the way of a healthy relationship. Since this is a difficult topic to bring up, we have created this step by step guide to help you get started.

When you don’t see your romantic partner for a long time, you may wish to talk to them to compensate for the lack of physical intimacy. Talk regularly, but avoid excessive communication.

Unclear communication can also become an issue. It’s tough to navigate your conversations without seeing the person in front of you. When you are talking to someone face-to-face, you can observe their body language and subtle changes in their behaviour.

You also get a certain feeling when you’re next to the person that you cannot get when you are communicating online. For example, text messaging is one-way people don’t take care of writing everything correctly.

In a long-distance relationship, verbal and written communication are the only ways to express your feelings or what’s on your mind.

If you don’t do it properly, your partner won’t understand what you want to say. This can lead to confusion, misunderstandings, and unnecessary arguments and fights. Here is an article on dealing with arguments in a long-distance relationship.

To have a healthy long-distance relationship, it is essential to have fun as well as talk about things that touch you deeply.

If you have doubts or insecurities, sharing them with your long-distance partner will help you find this solution and fix the problems before they become big enough to influence your long-distance relationship in a negative way.

If you would like some help expressing yourself and sharing your thoughts and feelings, this workbook will help you out. It’ll also give you conversation ideas to grow your relationship and stay emotionally connected.

5. Build Emotional Connection

For you to maintain a healthy long-distance relationship, you need to work on keeping an emotional and physical connection. You can maintain an emotional connection by having effective communication.

Physical intimacy on the other hand is a lot harder to maintain a long-distance relationship for a long time. It can be hard to increase intimacy if you don’t have the means to visit each other as often as you would like.

Most couples can manage without physical intimacy for a few months. But, if your long-distance relationship doesn’t have an end date, it can be a confusing experience that will result in sexual frustration.  After a while, the frustration spills into other aspects of your life and your relationship.

If your long-distance relationship lasts a long time or you don’t have an end date, it can quickly turn into struggle and will be very hard to maintain.

Having a plan and a timeline for how long a long-distance relationship will last will give you reassurance and a direction for your relationship. If you don’t yet have a plan for your relationship, you absolutely need one if your relationship is to have any chance of success.

This guide will help you make a plan to achieve your personal and relationship goals that works for both of you.

Here are a few tips on how you can improve intimacy in your long-distance relationship:

  • Express your feelings to your long-distance partner. 
  • Take time to hear your partner’s point of view.
  • Talk openly, honestly, and regularly.
  • Arrange your visits to maintain physical intimacy.
  • Try to visit each other as frequently as you can.
  • Plan spontaneous trips together.
  • Make a plan for how long your long-distance relationship will last, and a timeline for when you will move in together.

You can build and maintain trust in your relationship by being open and honest about your feelings, intentions, doubts and concerns.

Regular visits and effective communication will help you maintain physical and emotional intimacy. If you need some guidance, consider this step by step guide to intimacy in a long-distance relationship.

6. Keep Your Long-Distance Relationship Interesting and Exciting

There are many ways to spice up your long-distance relationship. You can ask each other intimate questions, play sex games online, talk dirty to each other, and even explore interactive underwear.

While all of the above are a fun way to keep your long-distance relationship fresh and spicy, they can’t replace physical intimacy.

That’s why spicing up your long-distance relationship can work for a short while, but you will still crave and miss the touch of your partner.

Remember to spend most of your time living your life, doing the things you like, and work towards achieving your personal goals.

Sending random messages expressing your love and sharing something fun with your long-distance partner will help you keep the romance going.

The healthier option is to close the distance as soon as you can and in the meanwhile to visit each other frequently. And if either of this is not an option having a break from your long-distance relationship might be a better thing to do.

This workbook will give you some ideas on how you can spice up your long-distance relationship.


When you’re in a long-distance relationship, it may not always be easy to manage. To have a healthy and successful long-distance relationship, you should know how to maintain a physical and emotional connection.

You can maintain an emotional connection by having effective communication. Physical intimacy can be more challenging to maintain a long-distance relationship. The only way you can stay physically close is by frequently visiting each other and planning fun trips together.

Suppose you feel your relationship isn’t going well. In that case, you can try to improve it by seeing each other more often and having a clear plan on moving in together.

You can manage a long-distance relationship very well for a short while. To help you through this period of your relationship, consider changing the way you see a long-distance relationship.

In this article, we cover every aspect of a long-distance relationship and give you ideas on how you can make your relationship work over a distance.

Being in a long-distance relationship has its challenges. But it can also be an opportunity for you to spend time doing the things that you like and work on your personal life goals.

To manage your long-distance relationship, you need to have good communication, agreeing on how and how often you will communicate, share your feelings and concerns with your partner, build emotional connection and keep your relationship interesting, fun and exciting.

A lack of physical intimacy during a long-distance relationship will make it hard to manage as time goes by. So the longer you are in a long-distance relationship, the more creative you will have to be and the harder it will get to manage. So, try to close the distance sooner rather than later.

When you see your long-distance relationship as an inconvenience, it becomes so much harder to make it work. You can manage a long-distance relationship for a short while, but as time goes by, it is increasingly more challenging. You can avoid extra pressure and unnecessary arguments by knowing the common problems and how to deal with them. Here is an article that covers just that.

All in all, the key to improving a long-distance relationship is by having effective communication and maintaining physical and emotional intimacy.

Our relationship coaching helps handle the long-distance relationship challenges in a loving and respectful way. As a result, you learn to manage the distance, build trust, maintain intimacy and handle your disagreements with love, care and respect.

Frequently Asked Questions

How can I make my long-distance relationship better?

You can make your long-distance relationship better by improving your communication. Make sure you avoid excessive communication while trying to talk regularly. Have spontaneous trips together to bring excitement into your relationship.

How can I improve my long-distance relationship?

Keep your conversations interesting and exciting. Avoid boring conversations which can make your relationship dull. The more time you spend talking, the less time you have left to do something fun with your life. If you don’t do anything exciting with your life, you won’t have interesting things to talk about.

How to increase attraction in a long-distance relationship?

If you don’t manage your communication properly, your long-distance relationship can turn into a boring routine. When couples live together, they have certain routines and build their lives around them. In a long-distance relationship, you don’t need to tolerate something in your life that isn’t exciting. The moment the long-distance relationship becomes boring, you will either end up suffering or will have to end your relationship.

How to increase love in a long-distance relationship?

To increase love in a long-distance relationship, you should agree with your partner what love means. Usually, life can mean different things to different people, even if they are a couple. For example, for you, love could mean your partner calling you and talking to you for many hours every day. For your partner, love could mean making an effort to visit you as much as they can. If you don’t know what love means for your partner, you won’t know what to do to make them feel loved.

How can I manage a long-distance relationship?

You can manage a long-distance relationship by agreeing with your long-distance partner how and when is the best time for you to talk to each other.

How Healthy Is Your Long-Distance Relationship?

If you are having doubts about your long-distance relationship and are not sure if you should try to fix it or let it go, here is our step by step guide to help you and your partner reassess your relationship and make an educated decision that works for both of you.

Relationship Coaching for Long-Distance Couples

Long-distance relationships are hard to maintain without knowing exactly what they involve.

However, once you understand what long-distance relationships are, what they are not and how to navigate them, you are a lot more likely to make it work.

We specialise in helping long-distance couples create and maintain a healthy relationship by building intimacy, trust and effective communication.

If you are starting a long-distance relationship or are already in one, send us a message to book an individual coaching session for yourself or a couples coaching session for you and your partner.

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