You may find yourself in a relationship where you have more problems that what you can fix and it’s no longer exciting to be with your partner. So, what can you do about it?
When you started your relationship it was fun and exciting. As time passes by it becomes boring because you stop having fun and enjoying being together. You start having more problems than solutions. These unresolved problems accumulate over time and drag your whole relationship down. Being in such a relationship is exhausting and unfulfilling. At some point you need to ask yourself if it’s worth in a relationship where you are feeling tired and at the same time powerless to do anything about it.
In this article, you will learn why relationships get tiring, what you can do about it and when is time to end such relationship.
What Does It Mean to Be Tired of a Relationship?
Here’s the definition of tired, according to the Merriam-webster dictionary:
1: drained of strength and energy : fatigued often to the point of exhaustion
2: obviously worn by hard use : run-down
3: trite, hackneyed
Being tired of a relationship manifests as a lack of interest in your partner or your relationship. When people are fed up, they would normally avoid being in situations or with people they don’t feel good with.
It’s is likely that when you feel tired of your relationship you will withdraw more from your partner and want to stay less time with them.
One or both partners can feel tired of the relationship. Even though, it’s more likely that one partner is more tired of the relationship than the other.
Nonetheless, some couples choose to stay together regardless of their relationship becoming a burden to their own lives. Instead of being a contribution to each other’s personal development.
Is It Normal to Get Tired of a Relationship?
Being tired of a relationship is a sign that something is not quite right. So, once you recognise it, the next step is to identify why you are feeling tired.
- Are you tired of being with your partner?
- Are you tired of this particular type of relationship?
- Do you need to make some changes in your life?
In long-term relationships couples tend to get bogged down with everyday chores and forget what it is like to have fun together. After being with someone for a while it’s almost inevitable to start taking that person and relationship for granted.
It takes conscious effort to maintain appreciation of something you do every day and someone with whom you are everyday.
You can develop appreciation by recognising how your partner and your relationship contribute to your life (if that’s the case). Upon reflection, you may find you would better off without this relationship.
In this case, if you consider ending your relationship, try doing it in a loving way by openly and honestly expressing your concerns to your partner. This will allow you to avoid making unilateral decisions. It will help you maintain respect and understanding for your partner while addressing your personal needs.
Why Do People Get Tired of Their Relationship?
There are several reasons why people get tired of a relationship such as:
- Having constant unfulfilled expectations
- Feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner
- Feeling too much pressure to fulfil your partner’s, family, friends or society expectations
- Being in a relationship for too long without it going anywhere
- Constant arguments
Tired of Relationship Problems
When your problems can’t be fixed you will get really frustrated. You need both partners to be willing to make the most of the relationship and make a joined effort to resolve the issues.
If only one partner is making the effort and the problems just don’t get resolved, it is just a matter of time for them to be tired of trying.
Tired of Trying to Make a Relationship Work
You have problems in your relationship and you have been trying to fix them. But, nothing is working and your partner is not helping.
If you are in this situation, it’s likely you feel worn out and want to give up. In this case, you have two options:
- Get professional help if your partner is willing to try, or
- End your relationship.
What Happens When You Get Tired of Your Relationship?
When you are tired of your relationship you feel:
- Disconnected from yourself and your partner
- Unfulfilled because of the lack of connection
At this point you would be just tolerating your situation. You would no longer enjoy sharing your life with your partner and making the most of it.
With everyday you spend tolerating being in such relationship, you are essentially giving up on yourself.
Ignoring your personal goals and ambitions, which you do when you stay in a ‘toxic relationship’ can lead you to loose your self-value and self-belief.
Signs You Are Tired of Your Relationship
- Your level of tolerance is low
- You or your partner are snappy or moody at the least motive
- Less shows of affection towards each other
- Emotional and physical distant
- Showing no interest for what your partner has to say
- Spending less time together
- Preferring to do other things than being together
- Communication issues
- Less physical intimacy
- Feeling awkward with each other
- You stop supporting each other.
What to Do When You Are Tired of Your Relationship
When you find yourself tired of being in a relationship, it’s time to reassess. Take some time apart. This timeout will allow you to reflect on your life and your relationship.
You may discover that your relationship is making your life harder and is keeping you away from enjoying your life. In this case, you have a few options.
- Figure out which aspect of your relationship you feel tired about.
- Talk to your partner about your thoughts, feelings, and things that bother you the most.
- Together with your partner try to find a solution that works for both of you.
- Refresh your emotional connection
- Have quality time together
- Do activities together to feel close
- Spice up your relationship
You can find the very thing that is bothering you the most in your relationship. Something that makes you feel tired of dealing with it. Once you pinpoint the problem that is bothering you, you can find a way to fix it.
When you love someone, you want to give your best to this relationship. But sometimes, even your best isn’t enough to make your relationship work.
Whatever you decide, make sure you discuss your doubts, thoughts, and feelings with your partner. Once you talk about things, you can find a way to make it work or end it. As long as you make your decision together, all is well.
How to not Get Tired of Your Relationship
To avoid getting tired of your relationship:
- Try to resolve the problems
- Do some fun activities to make your relationship more exciting
It may be the case that if your relationship has run its course. Your tiredness could be a sign that it’s time for you to let go and move on.
How to End a Relationship When You Get Tired of It
- Acknowledge that this relationship is no longer contributing to your life.
- Recognise why it is not working.
- Discuss your thoughts, feelings and ideas about your relationship with your partner.
- Together with your partner, find a way forward that works for both of you.
- Have some takeaways, so you can learn from this experience and make better decisions in the future.
If you decide to end your relationship, try to avoid making a unilateral decision. Talk to your partner and share your doubts and concerns. They might have some ideas to help you resolve the issues. If not, at least they will appreciate your trust and understand why both of you should take a break.
When to End a Relationship
If a relationship gets boring and you start having more problems than solutions at some point you will start getting tired of trying to make it work. Then you need to stop and ask yourself if this relationship is even worth it.
How long are you prepare to stay in such a relationship? Until you get tired and fed up and feel your partner or your relationship are holding you back in life.
But, what do you do? At which point you say enough is enough. You end your relationship and move on. Finally, which would be the best way to do it.
- You’ve been together for a while in a long-term relationship
- You feel the relationship is chore
Moving on from a Relationship
Once you discuss your concerns with your partner and both of you agree that is best to end your relationship. Your next step is to learn some takeaways from this relationship.
A healthy way to move on is by reflecting on your relationship and recognising what has worked and what didn’t. Knowing this will help you make better and more educated decisions in your future.
Trying to make a relationship work requires a lot of effort. It would help if you had time and money to maintain a healthy relationship.
So, if you are wondering what to do to avoid being tired of your relationship, here are a few things you can try:
- Reassess your relationship to see where it’s going.
- Make it work by making a plan and a timeline.
- If you had enough of being in a relationship, take a break to see how you feel about it.
If you still have feelings for each other and want to revamp your relationship. There are many things you can do to bring the excitement back. It may take a bit of time and effort to get things rolling. But, it’s worth it if you still want to make it work.
Help and Advice for When You Get Tired of Your Relationship
Tips on Dealing with Tiredness in Your Relationship
- Have a fun date at least once a week, go to new places or try new activities together.
- Show appreciation and gratitude to your partner
- Reassess your goals and ambitions
- Support each other on trying new hobbies separately
If you don’t know how to deal with doubts and you need professional help and advice, get in touch and we’ll be happy to help!
Frequently Asked Questions
How do you know when you’re tired of a relationship?
• When you don’t have enthusiasms
• You don’t enjoy your time together
• When can’t be bothered to do anything
• When your relationship isn’t going anywhere and feels it’s dragging you back, preventing you from achieving your life goals and ambitions
Can you get tired of someone you love?
You may still have romantic feelings for another person, but it doesn’t guarantees a healthy relationship. Sharing your life with someone requires continues development of understanding and the ongoing resolution of the everyday issues.
How to tell if someone is tired of you?
• They are not keen on spending time with you
• When you are together they don’t feel enthusiastic
• Given a choice, they would rather do something else
• Not to be confused with someone being busy, which doesn’t mean they don’t want to be with you.
How do you know when your relationship is failing?
• When you are no longer sharing the same interests
• When your relationship becomes boring
• When you no longer feel emotionally connected and understood
• When you are no willing to spend the time to resolve your problems
How do you know when it Is time to end a relationship?
Each person has different values and degree of tolerance. When you are in a relationship that does not contributes to your life. You may chose to stay in the relationship because it’s important for you in some way, or because you don’t value yourself or your time and you are willing to tolerate such relationship until you decide that enough is enough.